These signs go for both men and women.
The following quote is from the book "Yurugu: An African-Centered Critique of European Cultural Thought and Behavior" by the Warrioress Dr. Marimba Ani. This is the author's note on the Dogons of Mali in West Afuraka/ Afuraitkait:
"Amma the Creator, ordained that all created beings should be living manifestations of the fundamental universal principle of complementarity or "twinness." This principle manifests itself as the wholeness which is created when female and male pairs join in all things. Such pairing establishes equilibrium, cooperation, balance, and harmony. Amma, therefore, equipped each being with twin souls - both female and male - at birth. But in one of these primordial placentas, the male soul did not wait for the full gestation period to be born. This male being was known as Yurugu (Ogo), who arrogantly wished to compete with Amma and to create a world better than that which Amma had created. With his fragmented placenta he created Earth; but it could only be imperfect, since he was incomplete, that is, born prematurely, without his female twin-soul. Realizing that he was flawed and therefore DEFICIENT, Yurugu returned to Amma, seeking his complementary female self. But Amma had given his female soul away. Yurugu, forever incomplete, was doomed to perpetually search for the completeness that could never be his. The Earth, he had defiled in the act of self-creation, was now inhabited by single-souled, impure and incomplete beings like himself. Yurugu's descendants, all eternally deficient, originated in an incestuous act, since he had procreated with his own placenta, the representation of his mother."
Below are the signs of psychopathy
"He will choose you, disarm you with his words, and control you with his presence. He will delight you with his wit and his plans. He will show you a good time, but you will always get the bill. He will smile and deceive you, and he will scare you with his eyes. And when he is through with you, and he will be through with you, he will desert you and take with him your innocence and your pride. You will be left much sadder but not a lot wiser, and for a long time you will wonder what happened and what you did wrong. And if another of his kind comes knocking at your door, will you open it?"
Without Conscience - The Disturbing World Of The Psychopaths Among Us by Dr. Robert Hare
Also, read Cleckley's speculations on what was "really wrong" with these people. He comes very close to suggesting that they are human in every respect - but that they lack a soul.
"They can imitate feelings, but the only real feelings they seem to have - the thing that drives them and causes them to act out different dramas for effect - are a sort of adrenaline based "fear" of loss of what they want. That is to say, they "feel" need/want as love, and not having their needs/wants met is described as "not being loved" by them."
One thing we do know is this: many people who experience interactions with psychopaths and narcissists report feeling "drained" and confused and often subsequently experience deteriorating health. Does this mean that part of the dynamic, part of the explanation for why psychopaths will pursue "love relationships" and "friendships" that ostensibly can result in no observable material gain, is because there is an actual energy consumption?
We do not know the answer to this question. We observe, we theorize, we speculate and hypothesize. But in the end, only the individual victim can determine what they have lost in the dynamic - and it is often far more than material goods. In a certain sense, it seems that psychopaths are "soul stealers." <--- This makes sense considering Cleckley's conclusion and the Dogon quote about Yurugu(Ogo).
Words do not seem to have the same meaning for them as they do for us. In fact, it's unclear if they even grasp the meaning of their own words, a condition that Cleckley called "semantic aphasia."
As their anxiety increases toward some forbidden object, so does their attraction to it. They live their lives by the lure of temptation.
Powerful cravings also seem to characterize them, as in drug addiction, kleptomania, pedophilia, any illicit or illegal indulgence. They like the endorphin "high" or "rush" off of excitement and risk-taking.
Not only do they covet possessions and power, but they gain special pleasure in usurping and taking from others (a symbolic sibling, for example); what they can plagiarize, swindle, and extort are fruits far sweeter than those they can earn through honest labor. And once having drained what they can from one source, they turn to another to exploit, bleed, and then cast aside; their pleasure in the misfortune of others is unquenchable.
As Hare states, "Lying, deceiving, and manipulation are natural talents for psychopaths...
When caught in a lie or challenged with the truth, they are seldom perplexed or embarrassed -- they simply change their stories or attempt to rework the facts so that they appear to be consistent with the lie.
The results are a series of contradictory statements and a thoroughly confused listener." [Hare, 46].
Often, their behaviour serves to confuse and repress their victims, or to influence anyone who might listen to the psychopath's side of the story. Manipulation is the key to their conquests, and lying is one way they achieve this.
One almost amusing example of how psychopaths lie can be exemplified by a man who's footprint was discovered at the scene of the crime.
"No, that's not my foot" he said, even though everyone knew he was lying.
This is how psychopaths operate. They will deny reality until their victims have a nervous breakdown.
The most amazing thing, however, is their selective memory. A psychopath might not remember the promises he made to you yesterday, but he will remember something from the past if it suits his purposes in some way. They often do this whenever they're confronted or caught in a lie.
Most psychopaths are very arrogant and cocky. However, when charming a potential victim, they say all the "right" things and make you believe they are kind-hearted souls; not always, but often enough.
The truth is, psychopaths are not altruistic and do not really care about friendships or ties. Guggenbuhl-Craig states that they are very talented at appearing much more humble than the average person, but are hardly so.
Some are also able to feign concern about the lower classes and profess that they are on the side of the underdog, the poor, and so forth.
A psychopath may claim, for instance (if he's from a low socio-economic class), that he dislikes rich people intensely, but at the same time, he will inwardly yearn and envy what they have. He is like the narcissist, desiring to reflect a false image of himself through his possessions. Among his possessions are included human beings: girlfriends, wives, and children. Some psychopaths can even be very fond of animals (contrary to the common viewpoint), but still view them as objects in relation to themselves.
Despite their failures, psychopaths have a very "narcissistic and grossly inflated view of their self-worth and importance, a truly astounding egocentricity and sense of entitlement, and see themselves as the center of the universe, as superior beings who are justified in living according to their own rules." [Hare, 38].
Psychopaths often end up associating with others like themselves, although in some cases they don't always get along that well.
Sometimes they pair up with other psychopaths and become a close team, one may be a "talker" while the other is a "doer," and so forth, although I strongly believe that these roles are interchangeable when dealing with a psychopathic duo. Hare states, "As long as their interests are complimentary, they make a formidable pair." [Hare, 65]. It has also been reported that some acquaintances may never really discover their truly dark side.
The hysteric-personality-disordered female is likely to be enamored of the psychopath...She is able...to reciprocate in this projective-introjective cycle by predominately idealizing the psychopathic character. Her need for attachment and dependency complements his desire for detachment and autonomy; she perceives others as all-giving and benevolent, and he perceives others as all-taking and malevolent.<---- Who do ya think that is?
Tim Field, a noted author and researcher of psychopathy, believes that the psychopath picks out people who can see through him: "A bully's (sociopath) apparent self-esteem and self-confidence is actually arrogance, an unsustainable belief of invulnerability honed from his willingness to act outside the bounds of society to ensure their survival. Targets (or victims) are people who can see through the arrogance to perceive the empty shell behind it - and bullies can sense who can see through them, furthering the target's elimination." This usually happens in the workplace, and in situations where the psychopath has let his mask drop.
Psychopaths also like to "attach" to women of higher social status, a woman who represents what he would like to be. Then when he is through with her, he can destroy her and "kill two birds with one stone." However, regardless of what personality type they go after, everyone is still a target.
Psychopaths will not only deny the past and trivialize it, but will avoid answering your questions directly, and even if they seem to answer them -- you can be sure that it's not the answer you were looking for. It has been said that even when they do give you a straight answer, the real issue will never be addressed by them, although they may even claim to be honourable when it suits them.
On the other hand, "psychopaths sometimes verbalize remorse but then contradict themselves in words or actions." [Hare, 41].
Psychopaths may apologize or show remorse only to get away with something, but in the end you will be stabbed in the back and realize how very shallow their words were.
The psychopath appears not to be able to remember what they had said or committed to for very long. They seem to always be living in the present. That is why they are usually guilty of being big "promise- makers" who cannot live up to their word.
They are also good at tricking their own psychiatrists. That is why Hare believes that therapy makes psychopaths worse; most of them learn about human emotions through psychiatry. ((( This is for all the Tim Wise fans. He's teaching white folk how to be better racists/ how to further refine the system of racism white supremacy.)))
So, once again: Can psychopaths change? Can you change them?
No, they choose to behave as they do, even though, to some extent they do have a personality disorder. Dr. Black, however, believes that even those patients who "show the greatest change seem unable to comprehend the degree to which their actions affected those around them. They may continue to live in emotional isolation. Self-interest is a natural component of the human makeup, but it is especially strong in antisocials and leaves many of them unable to develop full compassion, consience, and other attributes that make for successul social relations." [Black, 144].
Black also believes that "victims may fear revenge or other potential consequences, but leaving the abusive situation (with a psychopath) is often better than trying to survive in a relationship built on intimidation and violence." [Black, 185].
"Personally, I also believe that it's better to not accept meager crumbs of fake affection from a psychopath. No one needs that kind of abuse. If you keep taking that abuse, I can grant you that you will pay for it both mentally and emotionally, for a very long time. The end result is what is referred to as having been psychologically battered."
And there you have it. Remember that nothing is absolute so a psychopath doesn't have to exhibit each and every single sign listed above. I'll have more later if this pans out alright. I've made observations and correlations between these signs and our condition and experience with people who classify themselves as white that I may post later, but I'm sure you all can look at these signs yourself and realize that you either have known someone very close to you that's a psychopath or even entire groups of people. Hell, maybe even someone on this forum. My opinion based on these facts is that we should avoid relationships of any kind with psychopaths altogether. Unless your goal is to show a spectator that someone is a psychopath, it is highly advisable to refrain from debating/ arguing with psychopaths because outside of this context it is most likely pointless. If one is a peer among you then they should be ignored, but observed because they are potentially very dangerous. If the said psychopath is in a position where they hold the power of probable life or death over entire peoples then they need to be killed period. There is no cure for a psychopath. There are 3 options. One option for dealing with a psychopath is radical neurosurgery which renders them basically human vegetables. Another is incarceration and finally death. For the psychopath in the position of power, I don't see the point of the surgery. With incarceration there is always a chance of escape. You see where I'm going.
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